YOU need to CHANGE! Or … should you MODIFY yourself?

Posted on: March 3rd, 2015 by Dr. Spencer Baron No Comments

Secrets of the mental game


I’m at an interesting crossroad as to where “change” is different from “modify.” My purpose for using the term “modify” in a recent post was to elicit action from the readers and to get them moving in a new month, new year and new decade.  The confluence of the three BEGS for change. Yet, my use of the word, itself, was met with some resistance from a few people. Why? Is it because:

1)      Change is used all too often – it’s lost its potency?

2)      Change can be viewed as an arduous and overwhelming task?

3)      Change has been failed at so often that failure becomes commonplace?

4)      Change can be an expectation that elicits anxiety and anger?

How different, then, is the word “modify?”

1)       Modify is synonymous with change, yet the word is not played out and overused, therefore more people accept it.  It’s more of an invitation to do what is necessary instead of a challenge.

2)       Modify appears to bring about a gradual transformation instead of a more drastic one.

3)       Using the term, “modify,” carries positive connotations. Example:  I love the way you style your hair and if you modified it just a tiny little bit, it would look even better.

Words are powerful tools because they coax, entice, motivate or inspire. As part of the mental strategy needed to stay focused and in line with our goals, we need to choose words that mean something personally to us as individuals.  If “change” sounds too demanding and “modify” more inviting, go with the phraseology that fits your personality.  Just DO something new and DO it soon! Call it “semantics” but if your life needs tweaking (losing weight, getting out of your relationship, changing jobs, moving to a new house), it all starts with the first baby step….your belief that it needs to happen.

Will you agree that we all have PROBLEMS? Do you believe some problems are worse than others? Change the word “problem” and use the word “CHALLENGE!” “I’m fat and I have a CHALLENGE losing weight!” “I have a relationship CHALLENGE and I want to find the right person!” “It’s been a CHALLENGE getting my boss to see that I am of value!” Doesn’t “challenge” appear more inviting and less defeating? It just makes you want to overcome the hurdles and beat the odds. It arouses the competitive side of human nature, instead of feeling overwhelmed.   I dare you to take the “challenge” and “modify” your vocabulary! How does that look, feel and sound to you?

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